Sunday, April 28, 2013

How to balance relationships?

         “Every human action has an ulterior motive and every human has selfish motive in everything”.

So, It  is good to have touch with handful  of (few) relatives and friends and colleagues who are true to us with love. Jus have” hai!, how are you?, bye!“ relationship with everyone else. We will have to get lots of bad experiences if we go close with many people. In any new relationship, everything will be beautiful in the beginning. When the time goes by, things deteriorate and in most cases, hate will only be the result. Its because, we know nothing about the person in the beginning and we imagine a greenish picture about them. When the time goes by we get to know more details about the person which make us hate them if the details are not matching with our expectations. This is the reason why the priority matched relationships are rare and if we have such relationships we have to protect and nurture it for long term. Also there should be some mutual benefit and time availability for interaction for a relationship to sustain.

It is also possible to have friendship with people whose priorities are not matched accepting the differences of each other. We have to be very choosy and careful in moving with people. Its good to maintain proper distance with people. Stay away from Wolves n Stray Dogs n all Dangerous Animals N Disasterous Humanoid Robots.

                It is very rare to get new friends who may become close friends after college days. But i always keep my options open to meet new people and make friends and I get along well with all with proper distance. You dont need to trust someone to the extent you love them. Love yourself first n Love all others n trust little. If you dont trust anyone you are alone n if you trust everyone fully you will be cheated. So Trusting Right Person shows your Intelligence in life. Everyone should give first chance for the other person in a Relationship n also in Road Traffic. Judging a person in a relationship is like doing Math. If you miscalcute the answer will be wrong.

       You should be kind enough to break the protocol n help in any relationship if the other person is less knowledgeable n needs help. Being kind is important than being right.

           Intruding into others privacy by peeping into their personal life n talking bull shit can be a worst behaviour in a relationship. They themselves should first see whether their 100 % Perfect n Ideal n if so then they should help them solve their problem confidentially n safely if possible orelse stay as Good Hearted Stranger. Constitution of India needs amendments to accomodate for Privacy related Crimes n Harassments ( Like Casting Couch n Honey Trapping ) of this kind in Today's India.

          In an Issue in a relationship, there will be two sides ( Like a Coin ) or view points in which both will be justfiable for themselves but the third person or a view point who can only tell which is right for both. In Most Cases our own Judgement n Understanding of the other person's ( If its opposite sex ) view point is wrong ( 99.99 % ) except if you are an Expert Psychologist.

            Little fight can be used as a Touch Stone to check the truthfulness n Strength of any relationship. Judge most people whether they are friendly or not just like a 5 year old Kid from their words n politeness. Dont complicate your judgement skills as Most things ( 99 % ) are straight forward in this World. 1 is one n 2 is Two. There is no Human being on Earth who looks n talks like a Murderer but truly a Saint. If a person is only 95 % polite n kind to you he is already half enemy n if a person is 100 % polite n kind to you there is a good possibility that he might be backstabbing you n if a person is deadly n rashly talking bull shit on you he is a deadly enemy acting with you to get a Oscar Award very soon.

      Hurting Word or Remark is Sharper than a Sword n Poisonous than a Snake bite n Disasterous than a Bomb Blast which will deform the Mind n Body n Face.

                The moment you do a Good Thing or a Bad Thing to an Unknown person, You enter into a relationship with them as a Friend or Enemy or anyother relationship depending on what you exactly do n you are no longer a Stranger to that person N You will be Rewarded Directly or Indirectly for whatever you Contribute in the Relationship or Relationships with me. This applies to All  Politicians n Businessman n Officers n Producers n Directors n Actors n Industrialists.

              It is natural that most People feel being Insecure, if a person known to them grows Monitarily or Politically faster than them that they will be in the mercy of that person n they want themself to be in the Top Crest. This is a basic survival instict of people in society.

     What Energy ( Positive or Negative ) you give out, Comes back to you. It doesnt matter how high you fly if you cannt come back n help those who find it difficult to take off. Being Silent looking at someone who is suffering is Inhumane n Sadism n Arrogance n Saten.

         Most people who are cunning , do mistakes n errors in relationships without mistakes n errors n backstabb n manipulate the innocent which will be hidden forever.

          If you are Angry with me for some reason, Then Come directly to me ask me. Or Ignore. I like to be a Good hearted n Unknown Stranger to you. Dont do Idiotic n Silly n Nonsense things around me n waste your Time n Energy.

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Saturday, April 20, 2013

How to balance life?

            Probably you need little planning to spend time other than your work time. It is good to spend 8 hours for work, 4 hours for entertainment, 2 hours for fitness , reading and 2 hours for relaxation everyday. You should not think about work beyond 8 hours. You can have special plans for weekends. This is what i call as balanced life. If you follow this thumb rule and live your life , you can see the well being in life physically as well as mentally.

            There is really no point working hard to earn money faster and buy assets for old age. We need money for our living and children will grow on their own if we provide them education. Too much money will make us pamper our kids which will make them less competent and lazy. Earning money in a slow and steady phase can only balance life. If we make less money then spend less and save little. We can save money for our retirement in last 10 years of Career.

            Just running behind main stream ( other City, State, Country) doesn't mean that people running first are very smarter. I had been to foreign Country and other State for education and work but i returned to home town in a short period.

            Life is not one day or test match its at least 60 years game with money, health, happiness. Running in main stream will fetch you fast money may be but at the cost of losing health and happiness with lots of sacrifices and compromises.

          Secret of life lies in ignoring n avoiding the awareness that we are living life n enjoying happiness. The problem n worry starts only when we start comparing good n bad ,  happiness n sadness most of the time. Then we start liking n expecting the happiness very much n hating the sadness which will make you unfit to live practical life leading to fight in interpersonal relationships.

      Most People who are Employees n Workers in India Work towards Evening or Weekends due to their work load n tiredness n Start enjoying sensual n other pleasures in their free time to release pressure n get addicted to them n spoil Physical n Mental Health n reduce their Life expectancy.

      Ages 40, 45, 50 are right ages for Retirement if you had a Rewarding Career where you are paid good salary anywhere from 1 Lakh to 5 Lakhs in Other City otherthan Native n Foreign Country. There is no point in increasing expenditure to the level We Earn. Take life little easier n Do Social Service to develop India or Do Farming or Own n Run a small Company or Business and Concentrate on Bringing up the School or College going Kids n Groom them for Career or Entrepreneurship.

      You need Time in Life than Money to be Peaceful n happy n Blissful. If you change few settings n habits n things you can altogether change the Life itself. Your Physical n Mental well being can be improved a lot. For that, you have to analyse yourself n take decisions to change them.

       Most people just run behind physical n Material ( Money ) pleasures worrying about retirement settlement when they are just 30 or 35 Age. For this they start running fast to other City n Country to make huge Money faster. This is the reason why most people just run run n run in life. This is the very Root n Source of lack of peace n happiness n bliss n being Restless throughout life. But the fact is that they just need little Money to manage their retirement life.

       Avoid talking to people who make you feel bad n talk nonsense n bull shit n inferior. Dont make anything a Habit unless until its a good thing overall.